“He gets to me every time.” “If she asks me to do something for her, I just can’t refuse.” You have those folks in life that get to you. It may be your little one with their innocent smile and bright eyes. Perhaps it is your spouse that you love so much that any request they make becomes an action plan for you. Some find that certain sales clerks are so persuasive that they seek to avoid their pitch for fear of buying something they really don’t need.
What is it that makes some people so winsome, convincing, and compelling? Most of the time, we are taken by the way that they go about engaging us. None of us likes for a person to talk down to us, patronize us, embarrass or cajole us. Who truly responds positively to being ridiculed, humiliated, or made to feel stupid and inept? No one!
Human nature is drawn to a person with a bright countenance, gentle spirit, soothing voice, clarity of speech, pleasant demeanor, and positive appeal. We love to be around those people that exude joy, confidence, and character. Conversely, we avoid those that are sullen, moody, and manipulative. The desire to listen to a person is most often established before that person ever opens their mouth. The appearance and attitude of an individual is perceived as two people approach each other. Words most often simply confirm outward impressions.
We then draw people to our point of view by allowing them to understand clearly what we wish to convey. Often times, allowing them to “see” what we hope for them to grasp is a great first step to engaging them in conversation. Once we can convey with words the worth of what we hope to explain, it is much easier for the hearer to comply.
When Benjamin Franklin wished to interest the people of Philadelphia in street lighting, he didn't try to persuade them by just talking about it. He hung a beautiful lantern on a long bracket in front of his home. He kept the glass highly polished. Every evening at the approach of dusk, he carefully lit the wick. People saw the light from a distance and when they walked in its light, found that it helped them to avoid sharp stones on the pavement. Others placed light at their homes, and soon Philadelphia recognized the need for street lighting.
As others learn of the peace and joy you have in your life in Christ, they will recognize their need for Him. Your witness through personal testimony may be just what someone is waiting for! (copied).
When our hope is to engage others to hear the Gospel, we need to follow the words of our Master who said, “In the same way, let your light shine before others, so that they may see your good works and give glory to your Father who is in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16).